The blog world is a great place; it really is. Fabulous people. Delicious food. What more could you ask for? But, as with pretty much everything else in life, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Oh no sir-ee. Under that seemingly sunny exterior lurks a beast so vile that it strikes fear into the hearts of…
Err … sorry, I’ll stop being all melodramatic now…
No talk of beasts or vileness. Promise. But I do want to shed some light on an issue that I think needs to get a little bit more attention, and that issue is:
The unhealthy influence of “healthy” living blogs.
Chia seeds are no stranger among healthy living blogs, but I find them kind of… strange.
Now, I use the term healthy in quotation marks because many blogs that label themselves as such actually display extremely unhealthy habits. Over-exercising. Under-eating. Labelling food as good and bad. A plethora of disordered thoughts and behaviours that become masked behind the veil of “health”.
Sneaky.
And it’s not even necessarily a conscious thing – a lot of people genuinely believe that what they’re doing is healthy, even if it’s the complete opposite. I know that was the case with me when my eating disorder began to take over – I started eliminating certain foods from my diet and exercising to get “healthier”, became vegan and eliminated even more foods to become “even healthier”, and ultimately ended up almost dead. Go figure. And the real kicker? I honestly thought I was doing the right thing, when in reality I was just giving into disordered thoughts and feeding my growing problem.
But nevermind that for now.
The point is, I’m not perfect, nor am I claiming that I am – I’ve made plenty of mistakes, and I’m not trying to point fingers or accuse anyone. Mmmkau? Just wanted to put that out there.
Steel cut oats with baked apple, raisins, and almond butter.
What I am trying to do is warn people to be careful with how they approach the information they come across on healthy living blogs, because it’s incredibly easy to become negatively influenced by it…
“Oh, this girl only eats X amount, I guess I’m eating too much”
“Oh, this girl doesn’t eat so and so, I guess I should avoid it too”
“Oh, this girl exercises for X amount, now I feel like a lazy bum”
Sound familiar? Yeah. And you’re not alone – I openly admit that I fall victim to the comparison trap too. Even after spending years going through the hell that comes with an eating disorder and finally healing my relationship with food and exercise, I still occasionally catch myself comparing my habits to those that I come across on the blog world and thinking “Huh… Maybe I should try and…“
No. Stop.
Maybe I shouldn’t. In fact, I know I shouldn’t. Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt. It no longer fits.
Everything tastes better in layers.
The truth is that no matter how good something looks on the screen of your computer, you never see the whole picture. Sure, someone may eat very little, exercise excessively, and still appear to have a life that’s all sunshine and rainbows, but you don’t ever hear about the darker side… and believe me, there is one.
You don’t realize that the person has no energy to do anything once they finish their workout, or that they need 8 cups of coffee or cans of Diet Coke to get through the day. You don’t realize that they can’t stop thinking about when and what their next meal will be, or that they choke down their egg white omelettes when they’d really kill for bagel with cream cheese. You never hear about the sleepless nights, the missed opportunities, or the health scares. But they’re there. They’re there and they’re very much the result of what happens when you fail to take care of your body properly – it breaks down, just like anything else. It may not happen instantly, but over time, the abuse and neglect will catch up to you, guaranteed.
Pumpkin Chili Mexican Scramble with salsa, guac, and cottage cheese.
Now, I’m not telling you to run away screaming or to be suspicious of disordered behaviors wherever you go. Not at all. The blog world can be a great source of information and healthy ideas, and there are a lot of bloggers who do set a truly healthy example. But there are also those who don’t, so just…
Be careful and be aware.
Don’t try and follow someone’s example if it doesn’t work for you. When I was trying to heal the unhealthy relationship I had with food and exercise, I had to give up reading certain blogs because of the negative influence their lifestyle had on my mindset – it’s a lot harder to do the right thing for your health and your body when you surround yourself with those who very obviously don’t, especially when they try and pass of their disordered behaviors as “healthy” ones.
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I’d love to hear your thoughts 😀
Edit: Jenny and I are totally on the same page…
OMG yes .. seriously u wrote this so beautifully and im so glad u did! when i first started reading blogs last year i still had ED thoughts and i def wud compare myself and gah it was horrible.. at the same time.. i developed healthy habits and really FOUND myself which im SO glad i did! and now i never compare myself anymore!
fuck yes!
now excuse my language but you’ve just become one of my favourite bloggers.
i agree and relate to ever little bit of this post. i cant staaaaaaaaaand reading all these others girls blogs with their 0% this and their flour alternative, high fiber, low carb, high protein superfood, organic fresh natural, no added anything, grain bullshit!
its like some big self pity party just waiting for an innocent vulnerable girl to stumble upon and fall into the trap themselves!
fucki hte comparisons.
This post was so well written and you completely hit the nail on the head! When I first started reading “healthy” living blogs last year, I had so many that I followed on a daily basis. I definitely fell into the comparison trap back then, cutting out meat because others did, only drinking almond milk as opposed to cow’s, trying new exercises, etc. Since then, I have stopped reading the blogs that negatively influence me or make me feel bad about the choices I am making with my daily eats and fitness schedule.
The subject of this post is actually one of the reasons I started my own blog. I want to write about my life as it is. I am quite interested in nutrition, running, and fitness, yet I have been struggling with disordered eating for about 7 years at this point. On my blog I talk about my interests, but also my struggles around food and feeling “fat” and the recovery process. Right now, my life is full of ups and downs and I talk about this with honesty. I express my setbacks, fears, and victories on my blog and doing so has helped in recovering and has been an incredibly rewarding process.
This is a must-read. Amanda. Your words are wise, and behind them lies years of experience with an unhealthy obsession with being healthy.
Comparing ourselves to other people is not a constructive way to live. Take inspiration from reciepes, sure – but basing your needs and preferences on other peoples eating? Not a good idea. Recovery is about getting in touch with the one we are, the body we walk around in. And that body doesn’t give a shit about what other people eat or like, all it cares about is itself. Which is also what we should focus on, and not feel guilty for not eating this or that. or for the fact that we need more food than other people. We should take pride in nourishing ourself well, in honouring and loving our own individuality.
I had to stop reading a lot of blogs because they made it hard for me to distinguish between an unhealthy obsession with being healthy and what I actually love to eat. I like quite a lot of “unhealthy” food, and for me it is fundamental to accept this and to learn to eat it once in a while without guilt or fear.
Besides, as you write, a blog only present a partial view of reality. A lot can be going on behind the pictures and words.
Keep being the one you are Amanda – I’m SO glad you are back because your voice is important.
<3
Amanda, I. love. you. Seriously.
Thankyou.
With someone who has suffered from an ED and is still trying to find a healthy balance, comparing myself to other bloggers has made such an impact on my life. I started to change my diet, started to compulsively exercise and my family couldn’t understand where it was all coming from. Now I’m in a healthier mind-set thank god, I’m finding out what works for ME.
I’m sick and tired of seeing blogs where they punish themselves for eating carbs and living on protein only diets, eating white pasta/bread/rice saying that they feel bloated and disgusting just from the ONE time that they had it, punishing themselves for having too much FRUIT for god’s sake because it has too much sugar?! I mean what the hell, fruit is the healthiest thing ever! Making everything a ‘healthier’ version of everything when HELLO, cakes and sweets exist because they’re supposed to be a treat and actually taste good rather than a piece of fat-free, sugar-free CRAP. Only allowing themselves to have fats that are healthy, eating egg whites, having smoothies as a meal – um just because it’s in a bowl doesn’t make it a meal? And the whole sandwich thin / bagel thin thing. The list just goes on…what is wrong with some normal food?!
I’m not saying I’m perfect. I am still finding my balance. But what I won’t ever do, is influence other people by saying how much exercise I do and everything I eat in a day because at the moment I do too much of both. But the difference is, is that I KNOW that. And I won’t let that affect other people because I know how it feels to be affected by these kind of things. I’m still trying to find my balance but in the meantime, I like to post things that are healthy and happy and not triggering.
Please please keep these kind of posts coming because the way that you put it is truely PERFECT. Thankyou so so much <3 xx
This was such an important topic! I struggled a long time with comparing before accepting the way my body functions as opposed to the way other bloggers eat. Sorry, but 1/3 cup of oats in the morning doesn’t cut it for me, and it probably never will . And that’s perfectly ok!
Thanks for writing this – it’s seems obvious but it’s a good thing to remember.
Love this, thanks for writing it. Hopefully it’ll open eyes to some people.
This is all so true! I also sometimes found myself looking at heatlhy living blogs, thinking “if only I would be that perfect…”, but it leads to nothing but punishing your body and mind for no obvious reasons! If being vegan works for you, do it! If you love meat nad want to eat it, do it! If you like coffee with cream and 3 sugars in it – well, let´s drink it and enjoy your cup. Too much time do we spend thinking about our food choices that we sometimes forget about other important things, like fun, taste, company, comfort… It may become freakish difficult to enjoy a glass of ice coffee with ice-cream and pancakes with you best friends, when you think only about fats and carbs and cholesterol:/ Not that it is not important, it is! But the saying “moderation is the key” ain´t another cliché, it is a great message!!
I thought this as soon as I stepped into the blog-world. There are too many WIAW posts that look like they max out on 1250 calories, with sidenotes referencing the heavy workout they started the day on & how they planned on hitting up another class later.
When I first started the recovery process, I saw this & thought “wow, I could do that too”, but it took a matter of days for me to think “HELL NO, I wanna use “real” ingredients!”
I try not to read the blogs of obviously disordered bloggies; I find I fall prey to the comparison game & feel guilty for eating “as much” as I do.
I know I’m far from “perfect”, but I’m learning to embrace full-flavoured, “real” foods & adopt the view that “healthy” 100% of the time isn’t necessarily healthy.
I completely agree. There have been tons of blogs I stopped reading for these reasons. I even sometimes finding myself going back to them every now and again, in hopes that they will have improved. They never do! With that said, I don’t really like when readers ‘call out’ bloggers for what they are eating in response to a particular blog post. I’m not talking about generalised posts like this. I am talking about when readers comment on blog posts with things like “Oh, I see you’re going back to your anorexic ways” or “You need to loosen up an eat some cake!” or “Is that all you eat? Girl, you need to eat WAY more than that!” Maybe it gives some people pause to reconsider their food choices, but I think in general it’s not the right way to approach someone. If you’re really concerned about a blogger, and you think they might be open to listening to what you have to say, I think a carefully worded email can be more effective.
I’m still kind of new to this blogging thing, but you couldn’t have said it any better than you did. To be completely honest, I too have caught myself doing many of these things. I only read blogs that make my day better and people who I believe are honest. (You are an example haha). I try hard not to judge, but sometimes I have a really hard time believing what some people say on their blogs/what they eat. I wouldn’t be surprised if people take pics of their so called “Giant pepperoni pizza” and don’t even eat it…let alone taste it. I used to under eat, and sometimes still catch myself going back to that, but ever since I’ve been listening to god, and letting him guide me, I find it much easier. A year ago, there is no way I would even eat peanut butter more than a couple times a week, and now I can eat half a jar a day…and NOTHING HAPPENS…besides having more energy and being happier. Ps. That scramble looks amazing
I’ve wondered that as well… It’s like, yeah, those are some nice cookies you baked there, but did you actually eat one? Or just take a bunch of pictures and give them all away. Hrm…
Wow, what an amazing post! Im glad you reminded me that a blog doesnt show you every second of the writers life. While they may seem okay in writing, the reader really doesnt have any idea what their life is really like or if they need “8 cups of coffee to make it through the day” Ive been through an ED too and sometimes many of these blogs are triggering. Mainly because I constantly compare how much I eat, and exercise, or how thin I look compared to them. In reality, its important to remember that just because someone has a blog doesnt mean they themselves are actually healthy. Its becuase of post like this one that your blog is healthy for me to read 🙂
This post needs to be framed and read by all “healthy” living bloggers/ readers! Seriously, it/ you are amazing! I agree with every single thing you said, and you stated it better then I could imagine. I have no doubt in my mind you are a genuinely wonderfully amazing, brave, beautiful, strong, intelligent person will go on to influence others even more then you already have! I don’t even know you, but from reading your blog I almost feel as tho I do, and you are seriously an idol in my book!
Awww. Way to make a girl blush. Thank you 🙂
yes! Frame it!
Well said! When I started blogging a couple of years back I was still very much in the midst of my anorexia and was often triggered by other blogs (particularly ones which appeared to show very restricted eating patterns and intense exercise regimens). I’ve come a long way since then and make a conscious effort to not compare my habits with other bloggers since I really don’t know the whole picture (and I’ve stopped reading blogs in which I got the vibe that there was some deep s**t being covered up by sunshine and rainbows).
I think it’s awesome to touch on this topic, because this is not very talked about in the blogosphere! I definitely had to take a bunch of blogs off my reader because as “interesting” as they were, they were sort of unhealthy for me to read – mostly blogs that are really militant about their beliefs regarding health/nutrition, and i will admit i am totally susceptible to that kind of brainwashing. I think that just as young women, we will have naturally have these insecurities that cause us to compare ourselves to others – and i often have to step back and ask myself “why are you comparing? that makes no sense” – because you’re right – we never see the entire picture. in fact we probably only see the BEST of the picture. and seriously, every person is different – comparisons never work because no two people are on equal footing. i think comparisons also function on the premise that we are black and white people – when obviously we are totally 3-dimensional and there’s a lot more going on than meets the eye. thanks so much for writing about this amanda – it’s definitely encouraging and applicable even to real life, when we (or at least i know i do) compare ourselves to other people!
This post is brilliant. Like I might even link it in my next post brilliant. I sincerely hope everyone who reads healthy living blogs knows this but unfortunately I don’t think that’s the case. I fall victim to the comparison trap too but try to remind myself that I need to do what works for me and that just doesn’t include being vegan or running a marathon or spending every living second planning out my next meal. For me, that’s just not healthy. Thanks for this post 🙂
Love this.
thank you thank you thank you. lat night i was feeling so guilty for eating “too late” and for taking way “too many” extra dips into the peanut butter jar. all night and this morning (while reading blogs…) i kept telling myself “that was not healthy! why did you do that?”. btw i really love all of your posts and your food is so beautiful!
I just read Jenny’s post and then came over here and was like man chia seeds are getting beat up on today! Hahaha but no I totally agree with EVERYTHING you said in this post. I think people are scared to bring it up but you’re right, you never know when bloggers are obsessing over food or lacking energy or not sleeping because most people don’t talk about that side of it. Being “healthy” can get so skewed it is ridiculous. =/
Amen!!!
I once told myself I “should stop eating apples” because I eat more of them than anyone in blog world. SERIOUSLY?!?! Apples are GOOD for you and they are and always have been my favorite fruit.
Gosh…us humans and our desire and incessant need to compare!
This is beside the point, but check out Hungry Hungry Hippie’s Blog! Elise eats a ton of apples, though she doesn’t always post them because she figures people will get bored seeing so many pictures of apples! I personally wouldn’t, but that’s because apples are my favourite fruit! Instant cure for stomach aches for me too, oddly enough.
Gahhh I agree!! Apples cure my bloated stomach and are the perfect food to munch on! Sweet, crunchy…love!!
such an inspirational post.
this has seriously got me thinking about the way i think about my “own” healthy way of living and i think i have definitely fallen into the trap of comparing myself to these people. like…im jealous of those who can eat crazy amounts of peanut butter. bahaha..but then im like “oh they run 20 miles a day thats why” so maybe i should run that much and i can eat whatever. yeah, not a healthy way of thinking. ill eat my spoonful of peanut butter and feel good about it instead of killing myself trying to run it off.
anyway, well said. thank you for this. you opened my eyes a little bit. 😀
You are so so right. There is so much going on behind the scenes that people aren’t aware of. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover because the story inside could be COMPLETELY different! I definitely still catch myself thinking the innocent thought of, “Oh maybe if they’re doing it then I should too.” Then I realise, I don’t even like what they’re eating. I’m rather fond of the food I eat now. Why change? I’m happy and healthy and that’s all that matters.
You’re a star, Amanda 🙂
Oh by the way, I bought a ton of chia seeds and I cannot STAND them :
xxx
Haha! I’m trying to come up with a palatable way of getting through my stash as well. I just hate how they get stuck in my teeth…
Oh Lord this is so true! I get SO mad when I read some of the blogs on my reader….like I literally sit and shake my head as I’m reading! It is a little triggering sometimes, but I’ve come a long way and now I feel more pity than anything. Honestly even the esteemed healthy living bloggers used to impact me in a negative way when my ED was just starting to take hold – if you’re in the wrong mindset, ED can twist anything into a bad influence. Sometimes I still feel uncomfortable reading about all of the exercise people do (I’m still not totally at a point where I can exercise intuitively), but I’m much better about looking at it objectively. Great post!
Posts like this remind me why it really doesn’t bother me that I can’t “categorize” my blog. It’s more of an amalgamation of a bunch of different things (um, kind of like me), and I like having the freedom of not feeling pressured to fit into a certain niche.
That said… I do have to say that it kind of irks me when everything a blog portrays is sunshine and rainbows. Not that I want to be surrounded by gloom and doom all the time, but nobody is 100% cheerful 24/7. It just doesn’t work that way. Incessant cheeriness gets on my nerves, because it just strikes me as … fake.
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I love this post. Sometimes I think I’m weird because I’ve been exposed to blogs for well over a year, and I’ve never tried a green smoothie thing, chia seeds, or peanut flour. I do really try doing what works best for me. It’s hard sometimes, and I know I do compare. But everyone’s body is different. We all need different things, are diff. people, and have different wants. That’s what makes us special.
Thanks for putting this out there!
🙂 xo
You. Are. Amazing.
Very simply put.
You writing is so clear, your thoughts speak to my deepest fears and doubts. I don’t know what I would be doing right if I had not found your blog a few days ago. Your thoughts on issues hardly anyone else broaches is exactly what I, and doubtlessly many others, needed.
Keep it up. YOU ARE INSPIRING.
Oh I do love this post.
I hope I don’t seem like one of those bloggers eliminating foods to be “healthier.”
I eat the way I do purely because I have many food allergies and because I’m an animal loving tree hugger. But if there ever came a day when I craved a piece of cheese, believe me, I would eat some!
I also am not into labeling food as good or bad. I like to blog because I really do love food, not for comparing what I eat to others, but because it just really interests me and it’s nice to be able to come chat with people about common interests.
When I notice myself falling victim to the comparison trap I usually stop reading that certain blog.
I think you’ve said it all – I agree completely. I’ve been wanting to mention these things in my blog too, but I’m kind of scared at the same time. For instance, why don’t you just name your “healthiest” cookie the “lowest-calorie” or “lowest-fat” because guess what: it’s obvious? You (not meaning “you”) say you eat so much and how come your meals are always “non-fat” and EXACTLY 300kcal every time? Oh well, I should stop getting all upset. I decided that what matters is what “I” choose. Because after all, it will be me who will thrive and possibly, others (not only bloggers but also my peers) will not. (although I can’t say this for sure)
Never be afraid to say what you feel; chances are, a lot of others feel the same way 🙂
This was such an informative and true post. I couldn’t have said it better myself!
this was an amazing post and I agree with you one hundred percent! The bottom line is that we are all individuals and that we should never compare ourselves to others! Your amazing insight and honesty is what I truly love about your blog. You always remind me of hoes truly unique and special we all are!
:)aim
UMMMMMMMMMM WE ARE THE SAME PERSON! I literally just published a post that touched on the SAME issue (with a focus on chia seeds!!!)
unfortunately, now my post looks like a complete dud because your words are so much more profound than mine but whatever. I’m linking back to this on my blog now!
No way, girl! I loved your post! And omigosh I read it and the chia thing cracked me up big time. Crazy how we both chose to target those poor little buggers 😉
This post came at an exceptional time.
I’ve been thinking about this all day.
Like I saw a post where the person had a salad (when I just finished yummy, moist bread along with something similar) and they only had 1/8 of an avocado (when I had 1/2 large avocado + olive oil chopped )….
or then I see people on these cleanses…with juices…and awesome looking salads of kale and brown rice…and I think that it looks so neat…but should i buy into that?
people who eat no dairy….when I’m addicted to all these yogurt, cheese, etc…and feeling guilty for it.
Feeling guilty because I’m not vegan and I eat a lot of animal products…
feeling guilty because of the fats and breads I consume…YES bread! real bread…
feeling guilty for chocolate and nighttime snacking and everything.
The thing is that I’ve dealt with my problems for years now. And I’ve completely killed my body. I almost died once. And I’m just hanging on by a thread now. I go to bed at night and I pray and I hold faith.
And I quite seriously sleep all day. Or lie down and read and watch old movies. I don’t write or plan for the future. I’m basically entranced in this.
I am reaffirming my effort recently to FULLY committ to this…I’ve felt guilt all along because I need to work, make money, figure out my future, stop being such a dammed failure and waste of space that just sleeps all day…
but I can’t be anything or anyone UNTIL i get this settled once and for all.
The biggest thing that kills me now is that I literally sit or lie down 24-7.
I walk once a day for a short and very very slow 30 minute walk. I honestly fold my arms across my nonexistent chest as I walk because I feel so …like I’m sinking into my self.
The blog world…I don’t know Amanda. Like I find a lot of positivity and hope in so many blogs and I enjoy them.
BUT , then I don’t know.
I kind of want to start a blog to chronicle my thoughts in order to fully release as I embark on this fulltime committment to health…but I worry too that it might not be a good idea…but so many thoughts in my head..and a journal is almost not enough you know?
The most challnenging thing now….not exercising and eating a lot (contrary to others who are gaining) and eating carbs and grains…
AND not really knowing what I like…like…what food i really do like, or really do want…i have no idea…
Its confusing..but I can’t let more time slip by.
“got that shirt–it doesnt fit” bahahaha that cracked me up!
I’ve posted about this on Happiness Is Within like 20 times. So believe me when i say i agree 120%.
Although I agree, its still hard for me to watch other bloggers do there WIAW or daily eats. I see bloggers eating barely nothing and then doing TONS of exercise. It makes me feel like it is healthy and I CAN do it to. Thank god I have my dietitian talking sense into me or else I would have relapsed long ago.
I HATE daily food journals. I RARELY see women who actually eat what they need and then they say they are “healthy”! Not good to heat when your trying to recover from an ED……
Truth. Some of the WIAW’s I come across make me cringe, so I ignore them and look for women who know how to EAT for real instead. There’s not too many of them, but they ARE out there.
Very well said. There have been a few blogs that I’ve stumbled upon (and then stumbled away from) where the blogger seems to be eating far too little for my taste. Not my place or business to judge but I do wonder if other people are trying to do the same. I hope not.
I couldn’t agree more! It is soo easy to get swept up in the whole lifestyle comparison thing in the world of health-focused blogs. This is especially true when the blogger seems to have an amazing, idealistic life that is all peaches and cream. But the thing is you just never know what goes on behind the scenes (err.. blog posts). Just like we should be conscious consumers we should also be conscious blog readers. Yes it’s great to get ideas, learn about new foods, exercises, ways of life, etc. through blogs, but at the end of the day it is someone ELSE’S life and their perspective, and while it may inform your perspective you can’t see it as the end all be all. I used to be guilty of the whole comparison thing and altering my diet or other elements of my lifestyle to suit whatever blogs I was really into at the time. Now I’m just learning to do what makes me feel good and what fits MY own unique lifestyle.. just as you said in your previous post – do what works for you!
Bravo girl! That’s definitely the best way to do it 😀
As always, I love your thoughts 🙂
I think there is a very fine line between healthy and obsessive. And you’re right – it really is so easy to just see what a blogger wants us to see and immediately thinking that’s how we should do it. And hey, maybe it does work for them! But that doesn’t mean it will work for everyone else 😉 I, myself, tend to get a little uneasy when I see food being labeled as good or bad. Am I guilty of having done this? Oh, I’m sure! But I’ve changed my thinking and kind of hate the word healthy lately if it’s thrown before a recipe. For some reason, the term nutritious doesn’t bother me as much. I’m weird.
(…but I still love chia seeds. what can I say?! I fell in love with them when I was a naive blogger and DID have to try everything I saw 😉
The whole “healthy” thing gets to me a bit too – I think it’s a bit of a rebellion actually. It’s funny because I remember when I was really obsessed with eating clean, everyone around me basically rebelled and began eating even more unhealthy because they were sick of listening to me harp about the benefits of this and that 😆
i was reading my own comment and realized how hypocritical it is that my blog name is healthy exposures. ew. i’m not going to be able to sleep over this now! instead i’ll be up thinking of a new blog name, hah. only partially kidding.
Hey there, i just recently started blogging and found myself doing this comparison thing almost immediately. I am so glad I read your post because I’m still not 100% recovered and I need to stay focused on what works for me, not so random blogger!
Did you see my post today – protein poppers, courtesy of your cookie dough recipe! Mucho gracias, they’re addictive 🙂
I seriously couldn’t have said any of this better myself – bravo! You hit the nail on the head; and this is also why I’ve decreased the amounts of blogs I read.